Friday, January 28, 2011

The Life of an Expat Hockey Wife

I was recently added to a facebook group called "Expat Hockey Wives".  Not knowing what that meant exactly, I started researching the group page and found that the word expat comes from the word expatriate meaning, to permanently reside in a country or culture other than that of the person's upbringing or legal residence.  Ok... I guess I fit into that category. After exploring the group, I noticed that there are about 400 members, and I know (or know of ) a good chunk of them!  That just goes to show how small the hockey world really is.  Someone posted a note saying that in the real world, we are no more than 6 steps (people) away from one another, otherwise known as 6 degrees of separation.  In the hockey world, we have 2 degrees of separation.  I believe that 100%!  Everyone we have met has some sort of connection to people we know from home or from other teams Gino has played on etc. 

The site is really interesting and has been set up for wives and girlfriends of men that play hockey over seas.  People share advice with each other on a variety of topics including- family life, traveling, what to bring overseas, info on the different leagues/countries, exchange recipes, or just to vent about struggles we face and things we give up to travel the world with the men we love!  I found the post below to be humerous and right on the money...

You know your a hockey wife when...
You know you are a hockey wife when...you consult a magnetic hockey schedule when making any plans between September and April.


You know you are a hockey wife when...you have never put a Christmas tree up in the same home twice.

You know you are ...a hockey wife when...you have to think twice about throwing on a sweatshirt and wearing it in public because it is currently the wrong team.

You know you are a hockey wife when...you only know your husband's friend's names by their nicknames.

You know you are a hockey wife when...you decide to start a blog describing your life as a hockey wife.

There are about 10 blogs that women in the group have started and share their links on the website.  Some of these blogs are amazing and very detailed!  Here's a link to one of the blogs that I've started to follow.  This hockey wife has been living the lifestyle for 14 years and has 2 school aged children that travel with her and her hubby.  Her blog remains anonymous so her family has fake names and she replaces their heads with hockey masks in all of the pictures ( I loved that!)  Its a fabulous blog that reads like a diary.  She is hilarious!

http://hockeywifetales.blogspot.com/

(This may be a little deep)
Even though the positives of our experience have out weighed the negatives, there have been  instances where I've thought "am I the only one that thinks about these things or feels like this?" and now I know, I'm not alone!  After reading some of the posts on the site and reviewing the blogs, I realized that I'm just like these other woman.  No matter what team, league, pay scale, etc that our men are apart of, we all have the same concerns, thoughts, fears and DOWNTIME, HA!  It's only been 4 months but I feel like I've learned more about myself  and who I want to strive to be in this short time than I have in the last 10 years.  I still have alot to figure out, it will be interesting to see where our live takes us in the next few years.  Who knows, maybe I'll find a true passion in something wonderful and make it into a career!  But for now, I'm enjoying the journey.

A little news on the hockey front. 8 games left of the season!!  Out of the last, about 20 games, they've won 15 and are currently in 5th place out of 10.  They are 1 game behind 4th place and having home ice for the first round of the playoffs.  With the rate they're at, my prediction is 4th place for the start of playoffs, yea!  The games are always exciting for the wives, especially with all the fights they've had on the ice lately. The rules on fighting in the Norwegian league are pretty much the same as high school, your not supposed to do it!  But, tensions have been high lately and there have been quite a few fights where the guys drop there gloves.  By that time, they're too far into it that the refs back away and let them go (in fear that they'll get hurt themselves!).  The penalty for fighting is your kicked out of the game immediately and you have to sit out the next game. 

There are 5 guys on the team that have girlfriends that are pregnant, only one married....but that's a whole other story!  Anyways, at the last game 2 of the guys with preggo girlfriends, scored goals.  After Olsen Jr. scored, he looked up at his girlfriend in the stand and rocked his arms back and forth like he was cradling a baby.  When Eidsaether (pronounced I-t-sa) scored he kissed his glove and pointed to his girlfriend.  So sweet!  You can tell, the display of affection was more moving for me than the scoring.  Gino said thet next time he scores he's going to look up at me and put his arms over his head making a heart, hahaha.  I would probably pee my pants with embarrassment if that were to happen!!
Here's the link to the highlight video of the last game.  You can see the guys sending there love to there baby mama's. Click on the link below and then click on Video ser du her
http://www.lillehammerik.idrett.no/contents/visnyhet.asp?nyhetsid=3411

***If there are any topics or questions you have about hockey, life in Lillehammer or just life over seas write it in the comments section and I'll try to make the next blog all about those!
 Happy Friday!

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